I imagine we all have felt lonely a time or two in our lives. It isn’t anything we relish is it? When young women come to me or write to me asking for advice on becoming a missionary, my heart is saddened for them because I know they will experience loneliness. Whether USA based or foreign, missions is a lonely career. I want to share something with you that I have learned about God while enduring loneliness so that the next time you are feeling alone, you can claim these promises with me.
Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not
good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Here in this verse
we find the Creator looking at His perfect creation and the care He has for
us. He knows man has HIM. He knows man can walk and talk with HIM, but
yet, God says it isn’t good for man to be……what? Alone.
Let me make 3
statements that we MUST recognize before we go any further.
1. God knows our
needs.
2. God cares about
our needs.
3. God will supply
and fill those needs.
It isn’t a sin to
feel alone. It is okay if you are having
a day where you crave human fellowship or someone who understands. You aren’t weird and it doesn’t mean you aren’t
trusting God. Loneliness is a human
emotion that obviously was created inside of us and God saw that need in Adam
and God filled it.
Ecclesiastes
4:8 There is one alone,
and there is not a second; yea, he hath neither child nor brother: yet is
there no end of all his labour; neither is his eye satisfied with riches;
neither saith he, For whom do I labour, and bereave my soul of good?
This is also vanity, yea, it is a sore travail.
Here we see
Solomon warning against being alone because of selfishness. If you have created your own little world
that doesn’t let anyone in, then your loneliness is the price you pay for being
selfish. The attitude of not needing anyone
or pushing away of sisters and brothers in Christ can stem from a childhood of
abuse, or bad past relationships with a parent or spouse. All of that points to a glaring sin of
unforgiveness.
If you find yourself
withdrawing from the world and church because of hurt, you need to examine your
heart and see if there is someone you need to forgive. I know, it is hard, but God doesn’t want us
to seclude ourselves in pain that has been afflicted on us. The first step towards the healing process is
forgiveness. Don’t shut yourself off
from the fellowship that God KNOWS you need.
Look at what Solomon says next:
Ecclesiastes
4:9-10 Two are
better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they
fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when
he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
We all need someone around to help us when we have fallen, whether literally or figuratively. We all need that helping hand.
Yesterday, I was
all alone for the entire day. My
youngest daughter was away at a youth retreat and my youngest son was working
with his dad on our new house. I had
planned out my day and went about some cleaning when I received a text message
from my oldest son who is a freshman in college. The text read, “Mom, I wish you were here
with me.” I don’t have to tell you what
those 8 words did to my heart. The tears
rushed to my eyes. He was registering
for college for the first time and was nervous doing it on his own. Now, I know and you know, that these moments
build character and strengthen our children to take those steps towards being
an adult, but the mother in us who remembers their little faces the first few
moments after they are born wants to rush to their side and help them in
everything! With tear blurred eyes I
texted some encouragement to him and then I sat and cried for a good long
while.
I have a friend
going through similar experiences and I messaged her to pray for me in that
moment because she would understand the grief I was feeling. She prayed all day for me. Two are better than one. I had to choose to not shut the world out. Yes, you feel terrible that your weakness is
exposed and that you need help, but we must not be selfish. We must recognize we are created to need! It helped me knowing my friend was
praying. It didn’t wipe away the ache in
my heart, but it helped carry it.
It may be that you are widowed and the loneliness you are experiencing is one that I know nothing about personally. But that doesn't negate the fact that God knows your aching heart for the one who traveled so long by your side. Does God care about you and your heart? Yes. He shows GREAT care for the one who has lost a spouse. He says in the Bible that we aren't to afflict the widow and that He will establish your borders. That means He is your protector. I believe He will provide for you in your hour of loneliness the same exact way He will provide for mine. He isn't a respecter of persons, but He doesn't look kindly when folks mistreat the fatherless or the widow. He hasn't left you alone and He can provide a friend for you that understands and can help you carry on in life. No one fills the voids we have in our lives, but they can walk with us while we experience them.
Two are better
than one.
In my next post we
are going to look at our Saviour and how He handled being alone while He was a
man here on earth. Let’s get to know Him
better so that we can live better!
Until next time, Lord
willing,
Sheri
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