Crawl out of yourself, and see Jesus!

I listened to the complaining spirit of a woman as she spoke critical words against her husband. Truthfully, she was correct but scripturally she was way off base! I felt for her but had to be honest as we looked at God’s Word. You see, marriage is not always chocolates and roses, is it?

If God begins a good work in you, He promises to continue it until the day of Jesus Christ.

Lu 10:27 And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself.

I think I know something about endurance especially in marriage but I also know that I have made many mistakes throughout my life and this of course includes my own marriage. Being married for 51 years is becoming the exception and there have been times when I have literally thrown my hands up in the air and said, “You know what buster? I’m out of here!”  Sorry, people, just being honest! Everything we go through whether good or bad is allowed by the Hand of God and yes, sometimes our men make mistakes and, no, God isn’t the one who sinned. Why can’t we get that through our big heads? We are a selfish and unforgiving generation looking for our own pleasure. Stop! You know it is the truth. If you are the exception, will you please allow me to meet you?

It is time for us older women to speak up for our Lord Jesus Christ and shut up our complaining spirits against our husbands! Crawl out of yourself and SEE Jesus. Please, listen to His Word. This time of year is probably the worst time for marriages as we face buying for Christmas, entertaining our “church friends” our families and in-laws and then of course facing all the debt next month! Do you know this could be the HAPPIEST time of your year? It all begins with focusing on Jesus Christ and what He HAS DONE, IS DOING AND WHAT HE WANTS TO CONTINUE in your life!

It is simple…….unless YOU make it difficult. More suicides are committed after the year ends and going into the new year than any other time. More people get drunk, have an affair, do drugs, and leave their husbands…..this time of year. It breaks my heart when I know not only by experience but more by God’s Word, that it does NOT have to be that way.

Crawl out of yourself…..and SEE Jesus!

Ac 28:3 And when Paul had gathered a bundle of sticks, and laid them on the fire, there came a viper out of the heat, and fastened on his hand.
Ac 28:4 And when the barbarians saw the venomous beast hang on his hand, they said among themselves, No doubt this man is a murderer, whom, though he hath escaped the sea, yet vengeance suffereth not to live.
Ac 28:5 And he shook off the beast into the fire, and felt no harm.
Ac 28:6 Howbeit they looked when he should have swollen, or fallen down dead suddenly: but after they had looked a great while, and saw no harm come to him, they changed their minds, and said that he was a god.

“Sharon” you ask, “What does this scripture have to do with marriage?” Glad you asked……..

If God begins a good work in you, He promises to continue it until the day of Jesus Christ.

Php 1:6 Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:

God has a plan for YOUR life. God had a plan for Paul’s life. Go back to Acts 27 and read the account of the shipwreck and ask yourself if you are no different than Paul. God looks for women who can trust Him through the shipwreck, through the venomous bites of life and “shake it off” and I am DEAD SERIOUS! How much is too much? What would it take for you to say, “Hey Buster, I’m out of here.” We just can’t quit what has begun in us and that includes that man you married!

I am not stupid and know there are exceptions to every rule……..I counsel…….I get it, BUT… you know that you know that HE KNOWS!!!!

Help me, save your marriage or someone else who may be in trouble this time of year. Ok, so he was accused of something that others would take the opportunity to leave, even divorce. I get it! Does it mean that it is God’s will for you to pack up and start over somewhere else?  Consider picking up the pieces using God’s Hands and keep trucking. 

What about forgiveness? What happened to enduring for the season of his stupid mistakes and blunders? Are you the very one who could be there for him when he comes running home from whatever has taken him away? I’m just saying that we must be in a position totally looking at God’s face into His eyes and doing exactly as He bids and not so quickly as the lawyer says or some friend of yours who has gone through a divorce. Friends are needed as they help you see Christ in the midst of the storms but some friends may be like a sickness which keeps you blowing your nose with a headache. GET OUT OF THERE!

Crawl out of yourself and see Jesus!

This post is crazy….I know, but God has impressed me to write it. I didn’t want to, but I crawled out of my own self and will be obedient to Him!

No one is perfect. If you are the one having difficulties with your Man, the one who turned you upside down the first time you saw him, the one you have given all these years to, the one you said, “For better AND for worse” then, forgive.  Just do it!

Until next time, Lord willing!

Sharon